I am heading out to the dentist, momentarily. I will be having my surgery checked to make sure that my gums are healing as expected. My driveway that was full of snow has, thankfully, been shoveled, but the shock of snow still remains. Afterward, I will head to the gym (I've lost 8.5 lbs in six weeks!) and then come home to shower. All the while, I will be thinking about the women I've spoken with lately, all of whom say the same thing. They never see their husbands.
They seem to be finding that their schedules are keeping them away from their families and their husbands. I wonder, is this happening across the board, or am I just meeting people who are living with these circumstances? Is the hustle worth the separation, worth the distance that it creates? I cannot relate mostly because I don't live with my boyfriend so our circumstances are very different. I see him a couple days a week for dinner, one overnight on the weekend. I don't expect to see him that much. But if I were living with my husband, I'd hope to see him often.
People are losing their homes, and the economy has been raking us all over the coals. I understand why we all need to hustle. But there has to be a better solution. Too many people are splitting up at an alarming rate. We have to value our relationships.
Today my son had a delayed opening, and I happened to catch Ian Kerner (super god to women) with a woman (perhaps a co-writer, or maybe his wife) talking about how to keep marriages alive. I only caught the tail end. They talked about how it's important to keep ourselves looking good, for women to keep up with shaving and dressing nice, and for men to do the same. Either person giving up, getting slovenly, won't help the cause.
But if we never see each other, does it really matter?
I don't know the answer to these questions, but I know that I have to ask them. What are your personal feelings on this? Of course, you can message me privately, but I would love to see you comment here for other people to read. Feel free to keep your comments Anonymous (it's an option).